Analyzing Polyandry Relationships: Why My People Do Not Practice It

I had a student of mine today ask me about polyandry relationships. I immediately said: not what we do! With the many blessings of the divine, such a structure is not necessary and in the long run will create more instability in the overcall dynamics of relationships.

This student just moved to the US from Bangladesh and is a student at the university in languages and politics. His father is an importer of persian rugs, and also has a San Antonio carpet cleaning service business that is thriving. My student is working there part time, and in the rest of the time he is devouring books on world religions. I have a feeling he will be transferring to the religion department before long.

I believe this explanation will sufficiently satisfy his curiosity about what I consider a sociological fluke: polyandry relationships.

Fraternal-polyandry and it’s Effects on the Economy

The practice of fraternal-polyandry in Tibet has historically played, and continues to play, a major role in the economy of Tibet. Many positive repercussions of this system are indisputable. Regardless, the negative aspects of this tradition keep the practice from maintaining its prior popularity.

The personal economies of fraternal-polyandry’s practitioners reap many unusual benefits. The system prevents the division of the family farm, therefore resulting in a higher standard of living for all those involved; having only one heir per generation prevents unprofitable fragmentation of land. In the harsh climate of Tibet, it is much safer to work already cultivated land than to brave the potential barren lands. Women, specifically, benefit from the added security that comes when more than one man supports a woman and her children. Additionally, fraternal-polyandry regulates the population by leaving many women spinsters, taking pressure off of the limited resources. The pressure to work is lessened, as well, since there is a division of adult labor within the family. All parties are more likely to reap the benefits of material comfort, such as security and prestige.

Material wealth aside, fraternal-polyandry is not a flawless system. Personal freedom is lost in the process. There are less offspring and, as a result, a smaller labor force for the country. Since so few people try and cultivate virgin lands, the potential resources are not being taken advantage of. For the youngest of the brothers, it is a decision between eternal subordination and economic struggle. In the long run, tensions involving favoritism could cause the family and the land to be divided. The family, by only doing manual farm labor, could be losing valuable money-making opportunities since individual talents and skills are never recognized nor utilized. Finally, without great risk there is no great reward; this system could cause the economy to become stagnant.

There are many situations or regions in which the same pros and cons would apply, but in a rich land with more resources, fraternal-polyandry would instantaneously become obsolete. In desert-like climates, like some parts of Tibet, combining laborers in a family would help to ensure economic stability and, in isolation, give protection from outside danger.

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Dua for Supplication of Anxiety and Sorrow

Today I would Like to Quote the Dua for Supplication of Anxiety and Sorrow:

(117) ‘O Allah, I take refuge in You from anxiety and sorrow, weakness and laziness, miserliness and cowardice, the burden of debts and from being over powered by men.’

I know there are many Muslims suffering today. The past months have been especially difficult. It is time time of elections, and Donald Trump is a candidate to be President of the United States.

There has been tension between Muslims and Americans for a long time now. Particularly since September 11th, it has been a liability to be openly Muslim in the United States. This, in a country that was started because the Founders wanted religious freedom. It is sad and ironic. The country made by brave people who wanted freedom for everyone is now on the verge of going back on its foundational values.

When one looks at the history of the United States, it is full of stories of immigrants making it to the New World no matter how difficult the journey. Often it is the immigrants who are mistreated, who are given little respect and who do not feel welcome. The group of people that has been here slightly longer picks on the slightly newer and more “Alien” group. So perhaps this is only tradition.

I pray that there is not a law made against Muslims in this country because it will set a scary precedent of exclusion and categorization of people. We all believe in God and we all believe in Goodness. Ishmael was Abraham’s son. We are all brother.

I chose today’s prayers because I am feeling anxiety and sorrow. I want this world to be peaceful. I want to feel safe in my adopted home. I want to know my children will be treated with respect as they graduate school and enter the work force.

What is important is to remember that Allah is more powerful than the little worries I carry around in my head. If I take care to pray every day, often, and I remember that it is not for me to have the answers, then I can once again feel peace in my heart. Soon enough, there will be peace around me too.


Welcome to this first post. I am glad you are reading. It is my intention to make this page educational regarding Islam and its place in todays world.

Everyone is aware of the situation in the Middle East and in the whole global community. Islam, as I understand, contains many beautiful inspirations and guidances. It also has many doctrines that are questionable. Finally, like all texts said to be the Word of God, people often misunderstand and see the way they choose to see.

I strive to see things in the truest light. I use the wisdom of teachers, alive and dead, to help me read the Words of God and sit often in silent contemplation to know my own true thoughts. This is harder than it sounds. So many influences suggest to us how to think.

Luckily, meditation is a powerful medicine and with patience, one can begin to understand what are curses or spells, and what is the simple and eternal truth.